Just got home from a girls night out to this really cool place - [I'm taking steps to be more socially ho
w shall I put it? yes more socially 'accomplished']Some of the people I met tonight were totally new and random.... and s
ome who I am very good friends with
! So two divergent sets...So it was really a test of how much I had learnt as the result of the previous post and your comments.
So to begin with I had a small talk with myself wherein I told myself I was going to be confident and no one was going intimidate me...
And lo and behold I had such a rocking time.
Before I went out, I read and re-read all your com
ments and suggestions - and thought I'd conduct an experiment on myself...and report to you all the success or failure of this experiment.Felt a bit weird to be the subject of your own experiment... but cool
But I rocked tonight... it was bloody amazing and exhilarating. Girl's night out is so much fun!!!!!!!
... another realization I got was that it would be so cool if we could be in the state of mind that we are in when we are slightly inebriated...normally as well... without being drunk..
We'd be so m
uch easier with ourselves and we wouldn't be second guessing everything and examining all of our actions with a bloody magnifying glass of introspect.Just be...people... just be...
I think I think tooooo much!!!!!!!!!!
34 comments:
Well done Amber! The blogging community really helped you to come out of your shell. You shine!
i am so happy ,, you are so young and so beautiful, and seem like such a wonderful person... you so deserve to have a good time without worrying... do it often.. enjoy this part of your life... some day you will realize it was the best time....
... thank you... but I don't know why I'm a brooder and a sad person by nature.... can't help it!
I try and succeed for a while but it starts to feel so unreal and fake...
so tonight I had gone with the sole aim...armed with all the knowledge from all the input of the previous post, that I would be normal and enjoy myself... and I did... but honestly right now sitting here, replying to your comments seems so much more 'me' and being in my natural element than anything else...
Beautiful pictures and beautiful thoughts! You rock and you are right the key is to BE!
Way to go! Glad you had a fantatsic time with meeting new friends. :o)
That's a hot gaggle of chicks you got there.
Sorry, that was inappropriate. I should have said, "a gaggle of hot chicks."
mark: I kept thinking tonight if we could be the way we are when we are slightly tipsy all the time we would be so much happier
Titania: I totally surprise myself... I was actually being all sparkly and talkative and all... outside of my writing!!!
Diesel: Will be sure to tell them...
i want to visit there!!! (so bad).
and you ARE very lovely honey...
smiles, bee
the loner persona that many of us seem to adopt as a shield means we do tend to be observers rather than participators in social situations. Now if I could only learn to drink :)
Well done Amber.
Thats is... I am coming to Dubai. That looks like way more fun then I will ever have in NEW JERSEY
"Just be." Words of wisdom my new found friend. It is clearly evident in the photos that you were both open and receptive and it reflects in the faces of the other ladies faces. Personally, since I have dedicated my life to my family for the last six years my social network has shrunk and I find myself "out of practice" socially which is completely normal. But I found myself identifying with my lack of social contacts with being unable to socialize. As soon as I dropped my own misguided rationalization and opened up to the few people I do interact with I have discovered it to be completely untrue. Continue to stretch your own perceptions of yourself and you will continue to grow.
Be well and enjoy the day.
That's what I've been struggling myself: not to second guess everybody, including myself and other people. It's SO hard. I want to rid myself of bad assumptions/perceptions about other people. We'll see how it goes. :-))) Would be a lifetime battle, I think he he he...
You look GORGEOUS in the pics! :-))) Glad you had a rocking time there!!!
hey, u are a lovely gal :)
I can see that you are having a great time out there with your friends.
My 2 lil boys will be great to meet you. Come to my blog & see them ok? :)
http://janiceng.blogspot.com
Wow Random,
that's some girls night out
I see Dubai is full of beauty
Glad you're all having lots of fun!
Empress Bee (of the High Sea):
I wish you would, it'd be fun... after the summers though. It's scorching here these days
Loz: Drinking helps BIG time....
meleah rebeccah:
I officially promise to be your tour guide!!!!
Danielle:
You are right... according to my husband all it takes is practice. He's like the one who pushes me to go out and have fun and meet people. Since I'm not that good with socializing, he's on a mission to make me... but I know I couldn't do this every week
Amel's Realm:
I second guess everything and everybody and myself all the time as well. It's so tiring and unproductive but hard to stop :(
J@n!ce:
Will be sure to visit :)
QUASAR9: Hey!!!!!!
You must visit sometime... I'll make an exception and take you out on the girls night out too...
Oh aren't you absolutely gorgeous, you delicious little thing xx
Wouldn't it be lovely to bottle the loving feelings we all swim in when we are a little inebriated, when the sharp edges are softened and the light is less harsh...
xxx
The domestic minx: My God we'd be billionaires
Bravo on getting the "be myself" thing balanced. Looks like you all had a great time, those photos look so happy and fun. :-)
Ps.. and I sooo get the "think too much" thing. Me too.
What a delightful and uplifting post, Amber - well done girl!!! And yes, all the smiling pix were awesome! Loved reading this! :-)
Another social experiment to try: Sit in the audience of a Karaoke bar sipping only club soda. Conclusion: Karaoke is the perfect blend of people can't sing with people with people who shouldn't drink. Come to think of it...Dubai is probably way too cool for Karaoke.
WOW! I agree with Meleah, it looks so much FUN and you look so HAPPY :)
In fact there is a lesson here for me - happiness comes so naturally when the brain isn't engaged, so I shall not think so much, but just being HAPPY :)
Michelle:
It was fun... quite unexpectedly. This'll be my new motto at least for a bit
Josie Two Shoes:Thanks so much :)
Geno Petro:
We used to have a lot of Karaoke nights - we had this system at home and I remember how bad we sounded but just how much fun it was.
The Real Mother Hen:
Happiness does come naturally and we put roadblocks with over thinking
Random, Listen closely: you are exceptionally beautiful, intelligent, accomplished, creative, funny, and a kind soul.
I guarantee you that the people by whom you feel indimidated feel twice as intimidated by you. Trust me. Remember this the next time you feel your confidence shake.
I once told my wife, after a long night of drinking. that I'd figured out the secret to social interaction. It was that if you could keep the feeling of a good buzz all the time, even when you weren't drinking, then life would be one big party and everyone would be your best friend. Of course at the time she thought I was becoming a drunkard.
PS: What time do you get off work? Cause I am so hopping on the next plane to Dubai and you are so buying the first round of drinks. ;)
That's the spirit Amber! (No pun intended)
BTW I cannot understand, after seeing your pictures and reading both your blogs, how you can feel insecure and intimidated by anyone!
Rock on! ;)
Good for you Amber! I'm glad youhad such a great time!
HollyGL:
Thanks... but sometimes I just frustrate myself with my inability to be normal:(
Maybe I should just start working again
David: I don't work - just do some freelance advertising:)
But whenever you do come to Dubai I'll buy the drinks for sure
Epimenides:
I am just going to blame my insecurity on genetics. Actually I used to be painfully shy as a kid then when I grew older I became really aggressive. Now I go from one extreme to the other.
Mrs. Schmitty: Thanks it was kinda special...
You girls rock!
And oh yeah how many times have I felt like capturing that fleeting moment after a couple of drinks when you feel 'weightless'... hehe ... and wished that time would stand still forever
It's great that you guys .. I mean gals know how to enjoy the good thing that's called Life
I am TIPSY all the time, I think that is why I am so social!
I am HOLDING you to that tour guide promise!
Zakman:
We did rock the joint especially since we were so many and three of us had our cameras. I think some people must have got annoyed for sure!!!
Meleah Rebeccah:
You're on!!! I'll arrange a rockin' girl's night out in your honour!!!
Freelance advertising. Cool. That's the way to live. :)
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