The dictionary defines nice as:
Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1) -
nice /naɪs/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[nahys] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation –adjective, nic·er, nic·est.
- Exhibiting courtesy and politeness: a nice gesture.
- Of good character and reputation; respectable.
- Pleasing; agreeable; delightful: a nice visit.
- Amiably pleasant; kind
- Refined in manners, language
- Virtuous; respectable; decorous
People assume that if you are not being “aggressive” about what you want you are a coward or if someone is rude to you and you don’t reply in kind you’re a wimp.
No one stops to think that maybe you don’t want to stoop to the other person’s level.
I’ve personally had so many experiences whereby when I’m being polite it’s taken as an invitation to sit on my head and dance, or just ignore me until I start to scream and show my nasty side.
I’ve noticed this on message boards, the rude, “sarcastic” are in the foreground of it all and the ones who don't bully or shout are overshadowed.
Like they say ‘nice guys finish last’ but why is that???????
Since when did being nice, being decent, being well-mannered or courteous stop being fashionable and should we stop because it’s not en vogue?
Being nice has nothing to do with how entertaining a person can be but I suppose in today’s world until we insult someone or put them down, we think we can’t be noticed!
P.S.: I realize my English teacher would have butchered me for the over use of the word 'nice' which in her opinion was the most bland word in the English language...