Lately I seem to be surrounded by high relationship dramas of he said, she said. Since these days I’m so obsessed with blogging, I thought why not share my thoughts with you - my whacky theory about Adam, Eve and their blasted apple.
Even people reading this who don’t believe in religion are familiar with Adam and Eve right? so don't go all judgmental but read with a pinch of salt
Eve forces Adam out of Heaven…
He never forgave her for it and neither have the generations of men following. Their collective consciousness, as I like to think of it, still harbors unconscious and for some very conscious resentment of all Eves.
Everything that goes wrong in their life is traced back to a woman, from a crappy boss to a bad job to a miserable life – it is all her fault as after all it was a woman who displaced the prince from the throne
Sometimes I think all this trouble for one measly apple?
But of course it wasn’t really about the apple was it.
Eve didn’t really care about the apple it didn’t matter whether it was sweet or sour and she didn’t particularly want to eat it either. She wanted to see if she could make Adam have it… prove his love so to speak [and so came the snake slithering in…]
The apple was never the issue - the issue was power - hers over him.
And to this day the same story continues. All relationships are power games, some very subtle and running totally undercover and others not so subtle. There are apples all around disguised in so many shapes and forms, some cajoling, others shoving it down someone’s throat. And the name of the snake in this story is power a.k.a control
In the beginning the power issue is covered by the headiness of new love, couples lost in the hazy glow of love, ecstatic with euphoria, which they insist on sharing with all and sundry in unabashed displays of public affection. So what if 6 months down the road we have our aforementioned friend rear its smooth, round and perfectly delicious head.
Of course any reading this post currently in that particular phase of love will shake their heads disdainfully – but you’ll see what I mean. It happens to everyone even people happily married. Power and its distribution is what makes everything run. The human race is all about 'survive or perish' and to survive we need power – either to relinquish all of it or to wield it.
Not to digress from the topic of relationship [wonder if I ever got there] of men, women and of course apples… basically we repeat and relive the Adam, Eve saga with bizarre twists and storylines
The Adam who likes to think he is in control but isn’t meets the Eve who actually is
In this case our Adam likes to think he has the power and is a forceful, dominating person but actually isn’t. If humans behaved rationally he would be attracted to an Eve who would cajole, feed and flatter him, and make a nice pie out of that apple… he would do anything for her – you could maybe even find him putting the toilet seats down and or helping Eve with household chores. I think I'm getting too fanciful here...
All he needs is a couple of massages, nicely cooked meals not necessarily every day, compliments and to be made to feel like he is indeed the king of the castle.
But of course human nature being perverse there are far more chances that he will be attracted to an altogether different sort of Eve... this one means business. No flattery or massages here.
She won’t let him get away with pretending he is running the show... its equal or nothing. Apple sliced down straight in the middle.
Of course initially poor Adam huffs and puffs trying to bring the house down... he shouts and throws a tantrum she throws a bigger one…
There are other scenarios…
Control Freak Eve and an even more controlling Adam
Passive Aggressive Eve and a slightly dominating Adam [that’s me and hubby]
…. But their tales can wait, for now I’m going to eat my apple!
DISCLAIMER: This article is not meant to offend anyone and if it did it’s all the fault of the apple on my right ;)